I broke up with one of my favorite bloggers

I was one of those people that saw the good in every person. I trust and believe in you until you give me a reason not to. I believe we are all on the same journey to become the best versions of ourselves and anything I can do to help, I’m all in. A few weeks ago, I broke up with my favorite blogger. I won’t say her name and she probably won’t even remember talking to me but the words she said (or didn’t say) had a profound effect on me and how I’m going to react moving forward….let me explain.

I found this particular blogger on Instagram in 2016. I was just starting my journey to be a blogger/social influencer and wanted to follow some bloggers that had concepts and ideas that I liked and wanted to tailor my brand from. I watched her YouTube videos, IG stories, read her blog posts, and even took some classes on how to better engage your followers. I wanted to be successful at this and knew I needed to solicit advise from other professionals in the business.

She wasn’t 100k followers famous but she seemed to be dedicated to her brand and was passionate about always thanking her following for supporting her and her journey. I actually believed the hype. I would comment on her posts or blogs to give her that support she so greatly appreciated.

A couple of months ago, I found out I was going to be traveling to her city for a few days and thought this would be the perfect time for us to get together, just for coffee or a quick pow wow. I had grown my brand over the last 2 years and our back and forth exchanges on social media let me to believe that would be great for both of our social brands. Oh boy was I wrong…I don’t want to show the Instagram message exchange between us but in a nut shell it was basically, nah…don’t have time for you. I have too many followers (not even 20k) and I don’t have time to meet everyone that asks me! I was shocked!! Yes I was a follower but I was also a fellow blogger and thought we could have a good convo and bounce ideas off one another. I just couldn’t fathom this person that I thought was a good person be such an asshole. Flabbergasted was the only word used to describe that interaction.

I immediately un-followed from social media, unsubscribed from her YouTube and blog and just like that, our relationship no longer existed. After that encounter, I had to do a self check to make sure I wasn’t that person that disregarded my followers because I think I made it. I realize that though I admired her work, we are nothing alike. I know I wouldn’t be where I am today if it wasn’t for the support of my followers and subscribers. They lift me when I feeling unsure of myself and are always there for support when I need them. To my followers, whether I have 11K or 11M, I am never too important for coffee or conversations or emails. I thank you everyday for supporting my journey and know that without you, I am not successful.

~Cocoa Curls

6 thoughts on “I broke up with one of my favorite bloggers

  1. Wow, shame on her. And I’m so sorry this happened to you! One day she will definitely realize what her real followers mean to her.
    You keep doing what you love, having a sweet spirit and the love will definitely follow you. I love your brand and everything about it!!

  2. Thank you for sharing. I am new to blogging also even though I have been talking myself in and out starting a blog for a few years now but I have had this similar experience. I was living in the same city as this one person, we even went to the same places to get coffee for goodness sake and when I emailed them, asking them to meet, get their thoughts on things (We weren’t in the same size of anything), they never even responded. Now that I think about it, they never respond to anything…

    Again, thank you for sharing.

  3. Amen to this. I totally understand that yes, she can’t meet everyone, but there are better ways to word things!

    I can’t stand when bloggers get too cocky and think they’re better than someone else. Drive me insane x

  4. I have followed you for about 2 months now since deciding to go natural. I love your ideas, I love your videos, and I love all the information that you give and you give me confidence that I can go natural successfully and love it. I find myself watching at least one of your videos every day just so I make sure that I’m taking care of my hair. Thanks for all you do and share to help me make going natural exciting and successful with all your tips!

  5. kindness is so important, and I’m so sad that some bloggers are overconfident like that.I love it when people achieve something and are proud of it,but also make sure to try and help smaller bloggers with it.wish your blog all the luck, and I love your blog!Keep writing<3I'd love for you to check my blog out too!

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